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Are you struggling? You are not alone!

Life as we know is in stages. You may be down today and feel all is against you, you might even think its due to what you did or did not do but I have good news for you today.

You are not alone in your struggles!

While growing up, I was uesd to having people around me but I have found myself in another type of settings that I now understand what loneliness means.

Also as a mum who stays at home to take care of my kids, I love looking after them knowing I am giving them the best foundation I could but sometimes I get so tired. I desire to have a 9-5 white collar job, I long for the old days where I have colleagues and my days are not filled with sometimes crying babies and diapering.

I struggle at motherhood some days and I excel at other times but I am trying my best to find joy and contentment in this season I am now because I know it wont be forever.

So if you are like me, and you find yourself struggling with one or two aspects of your life please hang on there, this also will pass!

I am trying to put the products I am selling on the blog so you must have noticed the changes, In case you dont like how the blog is looking now, I am still working on it so do not give up on me yet!

Just to say hello and let you know what is happening with the blog, and most importantly to give you a virtual hug that all will be well irrespective of what you are going through now.

I remain your virtual friend,



new month

Hello Dear Friend,

How are you doing today? Happy New Month!

I pray that this month be a month of marching forward for us all, Amen!

You must have noticed I have not been here for some days now, Please pardon me it was beyond my control.

I fell ill and that is one of the problems of sole proprietorship. When the owner gets sick, the business suffers. But I do not pray to experience pharyngitis in my life ever again .

I could not eat nor talk for four days and swallowing saliva became a burden!

I did not realize we swallow saliva almost every time until my sickness!

But thanks be to God, the storm is over now.  I later discovered home remedies for it and I will be writing about it in my next post.

just to say hello and wish you all a fruitful month and let you know we have great stuff lined up for this month, so keep an eye out on your emails for our newsletters.

Until then, remain fashionable!

I remain Your virtual friend,



Hello friends, how are you all doing?

Happy Family Day!

We should always have it at the back of our mind irrespective of the type of family that we have found ourselves that ”We do not chose our family they are Gods gift to us, And without a family, we will all be alone in the world”

Family are like branches on a tree, we grow in different directions yet our roots remains as one.

We should value our loved ones despite our differences , we do not know how long we have to spend with each other.

My dad passed away two years ago and the 18th of this month was his birthday, I would have given anything to have him here still but his absence is always a reminder that I will always spend the family day without him around. If you still have yours here, please do all that you can to take care of him.

It was a long weekend because the teachers had their Convention and the kids had been home since wednesday , so we did some activities to make it beautiful.

We  went to Telus Spark and we were also at the library we sure had a great day😀

So tell me what fun things do you do when the kids are on break?

Happy Valentines Day!

Good day everyone, how is it going?

hope you have things planned for today to spice things up a bit?

just to chip in that love should be a everyday thing to you and should not be once in a year.

And in all that we do today, we should not forget that “LOVE is when a Man wipes your tears even after you left Him hanging on the cross for your sins”

In case you do not have anything special for today, you can look for the following books (digital version) on amazon or anywhere you get your books and read it together and share opinions on it while sipping a glass of water if champagne is not available.

  1. Five love languages By Gary Chapman.
  2. 100 ways to Love your husband By Lisa Jacobson ( Her husband wrote his own version too , 100 ways to love your wife By Matthew Jacobson)

    Do have a great day filled with lots of Hugs and Love.


LOVE  is a language many are still trying to learn like a toddler and if care is not taken, there is a thin line between love and hatred.

Love is an intense feeling of deep affection.   It is a complete acceptance of the other party. It is when we allow the other person to be exactly as they are without wanting to change them to who we think they should be.

THE relationship that led to marriage in the first instance did not have an element of nagging, arguments, criticisms and other things that turns love to hatred to start with but over the years, we take what the other person is doing for granted, Then we feel we are better at doing things or bring more to the table,  we are more knowledgeable etc, we then tend to see things differently and that is when things start to go  horribly wrong.

For example, many couples run their marriage like a business. They discuss the bills, the kids, and the day to day operations of the house. They may struggle to keep things in check or they may operate like a well-oiled machine. Either way, they may lack quality communication with one another.

How often do you and your spouse discuss your feelings? When is the last time you talked about your hopes and dreams? Most people have trouble talking to their spouse. They don’t know how to express their feelings or their needs and wants. This is often a major problem in marriage. It often leads to a fight or disagreement. The best resolution you can have concerning your marriage this year, apart from loyalty, love and faithfulness is to learn how to communicate properly. Yes. Communication is as much about listening as it is talking. If we have to or just simply take a deep breath and try to really hear what our spouse is saying and respond rationally and with love, we will all have a better marriage.


love  your spouse the right way!


Think about what you can do differently in your marriage for the next one month and lets talk about the difference it has made in your relationship.


A water bearer had two large pots, one hung on each end of a pole which he carried across his neck.

One of the pots had a crack in it, and while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water.

At the end of the long walk from the stream to the master’s house, the cracked pot always arrived only half full.

For two years this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots full of water to his master’s house.

Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments, fulfilled in the design for which it was made.

But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it was unable to accomplish what it had been made to do.

After two years of enduring this bitter shame, the pot spoke to the water bearer one day by the stream. “I am ashamed of myself and I apologize to you.”

“Why?” asked the bearer. “What are you ashamed of?”

“I have been able, for these past two years, to deliver only half my load because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your master’s house. Because of my flaws, you have to do all of this work, and you don’t get full value from your efforts,” the pot said.

The water bearer felt sorry for the old cracked pot, and in his compassion he said, “As we return to the master’s house, I want you to notice the beautiful flowers along the path.”

Indeed, as they went up the hill, the old cracked pot took notice of the sun warming the beautiful wild flowers on the side of the path, and was cheered somewhat. But at the end of the trail, it still felt the old shame because it had leaked out half its load, and so again the pot apologized to the bearer for its failure.

The bearer said to the pot, “Did you not notice that there were flowers only on your side of the path, and not on the other pot’s side? That’s because I have always known about your flaw, and I took advantage of it. I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we’ve walked back from the stream, you’ve watered them.

For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate my master’s table. Without you being just the way you are, he would not have this beauty to grace his house.”

Each of us has flaws. We’re all cracked pots.

But if you let these flaws shine and try being yourself, then you can use your flaws to make the world more beautiful.

Don’t be afraid of your flaws. Acknowledge them, and you, too, can bring something beautiful to this world.


(Author Unknown)


How are you doing my good people?

I have been a bit busy lately and I am so sorry I have not posted in a while.

My mum is around and she has been staying with my baby while I go to the Library to study for an exam.

But while sitting here, it   just  dawned on me that in few days she will be going back.

when she came around, I had a list of things I will be doing within the three weeks and alas the three weeks is ending in a matter of days!

when did we start the year and february is around the corner?

So my advice is this, there wont always be enough time to do things, we wont have more than 24 hours in a day.

We just have to get going, it might not be at the pace we want but if we do not give up, we will surely meet our targets.

So no more excuses, get up and get going!

It is well with us, shallom!


People will see a man washing his clothes and instead of minding their business, they’ll say “Ahh Oga Ejike, go and marry so you’ll stop washing”.

They’ll see a man cooking and be like “Bro Ade, you need to get married so you can stop cooking”.

A mother will look at his 35 years old son who cannot wash his own boxers, boil water for tea or even make his own bed, a 35 years old that cannot take his plates to the kitchen after eating and tell him “James, you need to settle down, get a woman to take care of you”. SERIOUSLY??

In different ways, the society subconsciously tell men that they don’t marry women for any reason other than cleaning, cooking and childbearing. I begin to wonder, does the average man need a wife or a glorified maid?

Many women look 3 times their age all because of stress and exhaustion. You sit down in front of the TV with your phone and watch your wife work until she’s about to pass out. REALLY??

Men, who told you that it is wrong to wash your own plates?

Who told you that it is wrong to wash your own clothes?

Who told you that it is wrong to dress your bed when you wake up?

What will it take to help your partner with chores in the house?

If a man wanted to be adopted as a child to be pet, pampered, fed and nursed. Then, he need not to seek marriage, he should rather offer himself up for an adoption at a motherless home to be pick up.

BUT If you want a wife, who you would love, cherish, do different things with, assist in some chores, and love her for the rest of your life, then get married.

AND if you are getting married because you feel you’re becoming too old to do your own chores then get a maid.

Women are to be cherished, pampered and loved, not USED. Likewise men too

Or what do you think about this post?